find what they love

Written by Deb Zavoyna on Monday, February 04 2013 Posted in Kids, Parenting

For years Greg and I attempted to entice our children with different sports to play.  Soccer is fun!  You’re gonna love lacrosse!  Let’s try field hockey!   And what we got was 2 children that wanted next to nothing to do with organized sports.  This was tough for Greg.  He was involved in baseball, soccer, golf, and basketball his entire life.  His kids weren’t interested in sports?  Tough thing to swallow.

 

Interestingly enough, both our daughters give similar excuses to why sports aren’t their thing.  

 

“I don’t want people cheering for me.”

 

“Everyone is looking at me.”

 

“It’s too loud.”

 

Couple that with the sometimes-chaos of sporting events, feeling shy, and maybe just not wanting to run around and you have 2 kids that aren’t going to find success on a field.  Believe me, we pushed.  We begged. We forced.  It didn’t work.

 

Both Greg and I agreed that the girls need to do something extracurricular.  They couldn’t just hang out at home, picking on each other.  When they were teeny tiny (think: 4-6 years old) we tried gymnastics and dance.  Gymnastics was fun, but neither Claire or Jenna was bitten by the gymnastics bug.  They liked it, but didn’t love it enough to want to do it any more.  Dance?  We’ve been having them dance for years.  When they were teeny tiny, this didn’t go so well. They were shy and didn’t think performing in front of hundreds of strangers was a great idea.  

 

But over the years, my sweet girls really started to like dancing.  And drama (The organized-being-in-a-play kind.  Not the drama queen stuff.).  Perform in front of an audience?  No problem. Everyone looking at me while I dance or sing or do acrobatics?  Awesome.

 

I can’t pinpoint the time when both of my children decided that they liked performing.  It just happened.  Before I knew it, my girls not only wanted the attention that comes with wanting to be on stage, they demanded it.

 

Last year (when they were 9 and 11) they honed in on what they “loved” doing.  For Claire (now 12) it was dance. She determined she wants to be a ballerina and has worked relentlessly to make that happen.  I’m shocked and amazed at her natural ability and dedication to being a beautiful dancer.  I’m stunned at her progress and love of ballet.  I love to watch her dance.  The best part?  She loves it.  She can’t wait to get to the ballet studio.  She has never once not wanted to go.  I love that she loves it.  One of her teachers once told her “you were meant to do this.”  Powerful.

 

And Jenna (10) has found gymnastics.  She can’t wait for her classes every week.  She loves going, as well as, practicing at home.  We often say she spends more time upside down, than right side up.  Greg has made her a balance beam for home.  She is  currently in the process of begging  him to make her a bar, as uneven bars are her favorite.  Jenna is so strong (body and mind) that I know she’s going to do very well at gymnastics.  She’s already fantastic at what she’s learned.  And adorable.  I can’t believe what she can do (read: what I never had the guts to do growing up, when I wanted to be a gymnast).    I would be remise if I didn’t mention that Jenna does play field hockey in the fall.  And she’s great at it.

 

Beyond being profoundly proud of my hardworking, talented girls, I am content. Content that they have been found something that they truly love to do.  Something that they look forward to and have found success with.  Something that helps their self esteem tremendously and gives them confidence that they are absolutely awesome human beings.  

 

So find what your kids love.  Not what YOU love.  It may take a lot of trial and error.  And time.  Let them explore all possibilities and guide them when needed.  They will find their way and achieve true bliss in doing what they love.  And then you’ll get to see them blossom and grow into amazing people.  

 

I love you Claire and Jenna and am so proud of you!!

 

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Deb Zavoyna

Deb Zavoyna

Deb is an award winning (won perfect school attendance several quarters in elementary school) blogger, wife, and mom. She enjoys talking about herself, her super cool family, and her dangerous, exciting escapades. In her spare time, she loves to read, cook (if it's easy), and weave baskets. Ok, she doesn't know how to weave baskets. But she does love to write and hopes everyone enjoys hearing about her excellent adventures.

Comments (5)

  • shelly bordley

    shelly bordley

    05 February 2013 at 07:41 |
    Claire us awesome! She has such a natural talent I also love watching her dance.
    • Deb

      Deb

      05 February 2013 at 11:09 |
      Shelly you are so sweet! Thank you. YOUR girls are amazingly beautiful dancers!
  • Cari

    Cari

    05 February 2013 at 18:20 |
    So, so true!
  • Kelley

    Kelley

    05 February 2013 at 20:12 |
    This is such a tender post. What a great mommy you are! I have to keep this concept in mind for when mine starts figuring out what she likes!! I'd love to know what you think of my post today on kdiaries about becoming a SAHM. Ciao for now!

    Kelley
    Kdiaries.com
  • Punky Coletta

    Punky ColettaPunky Coletta

    09 February 2013 at 12:49 |
    That is so cool that they found their own things. And good for you as parents to let them rather than forcing them into something that made them miserable. Unfortunately, I do know people who do that and the results are never good. So, yay for you!

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